A service for my fellow geeks...

**savage** · 04-08-2006, 08:14 PM

I'm going for the most off topic post, but I hope some of you will find it usefull...

As we all know, most geeks are not the best guys at approaching women. We all fear the rejection and that stops us from achieving our goal of getting to know that hot chick. Lack of self confidence and self image stop most of us from getting past the fear...

So here ( 20MB MP3 download ) is an example of approaching women. These 2 American guys taped themselves approaching various women in London literally 2-3 nights ago. They were part of a TV programme that aired last night called Seduction School where they got 3 very average looking guys ( really tall, really short, really fat ) to come across as self confident when approaching women and how to get the girl's phone numbers.

I think listening to this is much better than the TV programme and you can listen and analyse the interaction going on between how the guy approaches the girls and how she responds. If you can come across as being a fun guy to be with, it's interesting to see how much you can get away with.

Now get out there and start seducing.

I have a company party next Wednesday night, so will post here about how it went.

**jdarling** · 07-08-2006, 01:38 PM

Well, when my wife and I met it was quite awkward. Long story short, I asked for a kiss, did it, then called her easy. 6 months later and we got married. 6 years later and we are still going good. So you don't have to be smooth to get the good looking girls

**NecroDOME** · 07-08-2006, 06:29 PM

I got a girlfriend for almost 3.5 years. The approatch I made was via Internet, then I asked her MSN address... that was basicly it... o yeah, I didn't ask for a kiss, I just kissed her!

**jdarling** · 08-08-2006, 12:52 PM

Originally Posted by NecroDOME

o yeah, I didn't ask for a kiss, I just kissed her!

Well I'm an old school guy, born and raised as a gentleman, so asking was severly beaten into me. Sure I got teased alot about it, but asking got me around the bases more then once faster then the guys that didn't

(the ladies seemed to think it was "cute").

**tanffn** · 09-08-2006, 08:22 AM

I thought it was quite cocky/funny asking her for a kiss and then calling her ‚Äúeasy‚Äù, can get some nice reactions out of that. The only reason I won‚Äôt do it the fear of an imminent NO, unless you can think of a nice comeback

btw, why do I have to select "Attach signature" ever single time! :?

**Firlefanz** · 09-08-2006, 09:13 AM

Since I am currently single (my wife left me for another guy half a year ago, we were together 13 years), downloading!

Firle

**WILL** · 09-08-2006, 10:20 AM

Ouch, sorry to hear that Eric. :? Sometimes you think you know people huh...

Have you guys ever heard of David DeAngelo? He has a pretty good phlisophy on Women and Dating.

**tanffn** · 09-08-2006, 10:46 AM

Sorry to hear that Eric

Here are a few more recourses:
http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/index.php

Hope it will help you more then it helped me

**savage** · 09-08-2006, 12:17 PM

I heard that a book called "The Game" by Neil Strauss is a great read and a few people have picked up some tips from it.

There's some interesting reading, for both men and women, over @ http://www.fastseduction.com ( not a porn site, but a site about picking up women ). I say it's interesting reading for women as well, because they can find out when certain techniques are being used on them.

@tanffn

The only reason I won‚Äôt do it the fear of an imminent NO

Don't ask questions that they can say NO to. If you build rapport with someone, male or female, you don't tend to ask Yes or No questions, because you are genuinely trying to find out about someone, so open ended questions are best. "How do you know the other people here/in this group? or Hi, how are you?" would be examples of open ended questions. Coming across as confident, without being arrogant, I think helps. Fake it if you have to.

There is a 3 second rule. If you find someone attractive go up and say something, even if it's just Hi within 3 seconds. If you wait longer than 3 seconds your brain will convince you of all the reasons why the person you are attracted to would not want to talk to you. If they blank you or give you a look of "who the f*** are you" you could say with a cheeky smile, "oh I didn't realise you were mute, nod if you know sign language" or something else like that. If you say it a jokey manner, most women have a sense of humour and should at least smile. Try and turn the negative situation into something humourous, it also shows you are cool under pressure. Funny but not rude, as that just makes you look bad.

**jdarling** · 09-08-2006, 12:38 PM

Originally Posted by tanffn

I thought it was quite cocky/funny asking her for a kiss and then calling her ‚Äúeasy‚Äù, can get some nice reactions out of that. The only reason I won‚Äôt do it the fear of an imminent NO, unless you can think of a nice comeback

btw, why do I have to select "Attach signature" ever single time! :?

I was so infatuated with her that what I ment to say was "That was easy" instead what came out was "Your easy". Hey, in the end it seems to all be working out well though. Course 13 years hasn't gone by, so I may be in for a surprise :shock: