Unfortunately I've investigated the numerous options within the site software and I have been unable to find anything that wold make moderated posts visible to the original user. You've been around long enough to know how much of a pain it becomes when you start modifying the software running the site.

It is what it is. I myself thought that moderated posts and threads were visible to the original poster (and moderators), but that isn't the case.

As stated, if an error occurs you will be told about it, so if there is no error then assume your post was successful and has been moderated.

The reality is that this only affects a couple of places on the forums, which to be fair are not heavy traffic areas so I don't see this as a big issue.